It's that time of year. You know, the one where we
"need" to see family that we would not typically see or want to see—that time of year when we " should" all get along. The "better" make sure we see each side of the family—the time of year when we "must" deal with those family members. Well, I am here to tell you that the correct answer is no; you absolutely do not need to disturb your peace if you do not want to. Yeah, I said it. SAY NO. OR put up boundaries.
I was in yoga the other day with a yogi that I haven't been able to take due to scheduling issues. Her words always inspire me. She told us how her mother decided years ago that Thanksgiving would be on the Sunday before Thanksgiving to avoid all conflicts. She went on to say how it has worked for decades. This ability to adapt as a family allows families to grow. It also allows families not to resent one another. It allows flexibility.
We are currently living in extremely divided times. Most of us have strong feelings and beliefs. However, it is essential to remember not everyone will feel the way we do. Everyone has feelings and opinions based on their life experiences, and those experiences may not be yours.
Parting words of wisdom: You do not need to attend every argument you are invited to.